Events Schedule & Rules

The following is a list of our Play Party Rules (FOR ANY FEMS UNITED EVENT) ~ Etiquette that we ask you to abide by. You must be vetted to attend! Vetting instructions can be found HERE. Anyone violating these rules can/will be asked to leave and may be restricted from all further group functions:

1. Members are required to present a valid picture ID, agree to abide by our rules, and sign a waiver in order to participate in Fems United events/parties. Waiver Form.
2. Our group is for adults 19 and older. You must be 21 and older to attend events/parties with a happy hour or be the minimum age required by a specific venue.
3. We at Fems United pride ourselves in welcoming individuals of different orientations at our events. We invite submissives/bottoms of any sex or gender to participate. However, being a FemDom group only women may top! Our definition of a “woman” is someone who lives and represents as a woman 24/7. This definition is not concerned with biology.
4. No solicitations for “pay for play” at any Fems United event.
5. Fems United occasionally plans games and group activities during events/parties. If you have not been present for the discussion of the rules of the game/activity, please sit it out. No late entries.
6. Be respectful of others and their play space. While in the dungeon/play space, keep your comments to a minimum and no louder than a whisper. Take conversations to the social area.
7. Unless invited, do not talk to or interact with players while the scene is progressing. This includes no “wanking off’ to scenes that you are not a participant of.
8. Watch from a respectful distance and do not walk into the scene. If you are close enough to feel the air from the swing of an implement, you are too close!
9. Do not touch another member in any manner without their consent.
10. Do not touch implements, toybags, equipment, or other personal property without first asking for and receiving permission.
11. If you are going to be naked in social areas of the event/party space, please bring a towel to sit on to protect the furniture.
12. All play must follow the guidelines of Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). Negotiation and consent between scene participants is to be done before beginning the scene.
13. Clean up after yourself using the products provided. If you cannot find the tools needed to clean up after yourself, please ask.
14. Disruptive, negative, and/or violent behavior will not be tolerated at all.
15. NO play involving animals, watersports (golden showers, etc), vomiting (roman showers, rainbow showers), scat (brown showers), and/or blood (intentional bleeding or cutting) is permitted at any of our events.
16. Wax and fire play are not permitted without express permission, to ensure that proper precautions are taken to protect the participants, equipment, and play space. If wax and/or fire play are permitted, please bring your own supplies to protect the participants and equipment.
17. Please abide by the rules of the host venue as well.
18. Photography is strictly prohibited.
19. Cell phones are prohibited in all event/party areas. One warning is given and then you will be asked to leave and/or banned from the group.
20. NO drugs or illegal substances of any kind permitted at Fems United events/parties. If you appear to be high or under the influence of drugs, you will be asked to leave, and a ride will be called for you at your expense.
21. Alcohol is permitted only at specific events/parties and if consistent with the rules of the host venue, but intoxication is never okay. Occasional parties may have a happy hour, these parties are limited to people 21 and over. If you appear to be intoxicated, you will be asked to leave, and a ride will be called for you at your expense.
22. Respect the privacy of our members. Please do not share info about private names of individuals, scenes, locations of events, etc unless given permission from all parties involved.
23. Please remember that event/party attendees will likely be in close contact with each other. Good hygiene and grooming is encouraged. We also require you to be property clothed in “vanilla” when in non-play space areas.
24. No smoking, vaping, or e-cigarettes in any indoor space. If you smoke or vape outside, please dispose of your butts and trash appropriately.
25. A munch is an informal get-together for members of Fems United. It is held in a public place such as a restaurant, bar, park, or coffee shop. Munches provide a safe, fun, social environment for newcomers to meet and socialize with members of Fems United in order to learn more about the group and meet others in the lifestyle. Because these meetings are held in public places, please do not dress in fetish-wear or expect any BDSM play. There is no entrance fee for a munch and you only pay for what you eat and/or drink. It is always a good idea to leave a generous tip.